Okay, so you’ve met the man of your dreams, and he’s totally into you, too. He speaks of faraway lands in a way that mesmerizes and he looks at you as though you’re the only woman on earth. The first thing to realize is that many Muslim men are on a “wife hunt.” As unromantic as that sounds, it is true.He has an intensity that has swept you off your feet. Marriage is considered “half the religion” and most men are eager to settle down and start a family.However much a woman or her family earns does not really alter what Muslim men are really looking for.During the Prophet's ﷺ time status was categorised into two. Just as women hope to marry into 'a good family', Muslim men love the idea of marrying into a 'religious family' - being connected to a woman whose family have ethical commitments and she herself is morally upright.Although it is common to hear that in South Asian/African countries men pressurise prospective wives and their families for high dowries etc, it is very unlikely a Muslim man will marry purely because his future wife is filthy rich.
This is not definitive nor applicable to all men, but it is a standard.
I find myself in a hard situation with a Muslim man I love.
I write because I don’t have resources within the Muslim community and would love that perspective.
I am not a Muslim woman though I have much respect for the faith.
For the past 9 months or so I have been dating a dear man from Libya who is here for school on a scholarship.