So you think you might be dating a pathological liar? They're not trying to con you into or out of anything. He is a bullshit artist who makes it up as he goes along, and who then semi-believes his own crap. You ask him what he did last Saturday and he tells you he went to the museum; and maybe he says at the museum he saw a guy try to rob the gift shop, but he got caught by two off duty cops wearing blue hats. If he saw a suicide bomber, he'd be able to movie- kung fu him, grab the Sig Sauer and squeeze off a few rounds. Hence confabulation is associated with dementia ("when I was 18 I went to Paris with my unit and I saw... Canadian guys, I think they were Satanists, no, wait, Stalinists, yeah, that's right, and they could read my mind...")What about biological correlates? The popular stereotype of a pathological liar-- a chronic liar, deceiver, who lies to get out of things, or into things; who tries to con you into something, or control you; who cheats on you and then denies it, makes up stories about where he was-- all this is wrong. He's a tool, but he's not psychiatric."Pathological lying" is often interchanged with "pseudologia fantastica." (NB: many psychiatrists use pseudologia fantastica interchangably with confabulation-- this is also wrong, as will be described below.) Pathological lying was originally defined as complex lies which are internally consistent, that may drag on for years and-- and this is the key point-- do not have an obvious purpose or gain. Once told, they generally stick (for years)-- but it's fair to say the pathological liar doesn't know what he's going to say until he says it. "Ok, look, I'm not really in the CIA." But in his mind, he knows that if conditions were right-- if something big went down-- he could be exactly like a CIA agent, and that's close enough. Pathological lying is not "confabulation." In both cases, lies are told spontaneously and freely, without clear intent, purpose, or gain-- except that in confabulation, the reason the person lies is to fill in the deficits in his memory; he can't remember what actually happened. Read more Our own blogger extraordinaire Lindsay Tigar has put together a thoughtful piece about celebrating our moms... Put simply, sometimes the lust you feel for someone is unhealthy and will... So please enjoy, and don't forget to wish all the moms you know much love. Read more It goes without saying that sexual attraction is a part of what draws two people together in romantic relationships, but sometimes the lust that you feel for someone is too much.What this study found was that people who frequently lie develop a better brain for manipulating information, remembering stories, etc-- which is interesting, but not all that surprising.My take is that pathological lying is a disorder of identity; the person imagines for himself an separate identity, and then fantasizes experiences and events which may be otherwise ordinary and predictable-- he went to the museum-- but in his mind happen only to "that" person.
He is not delusional, but he hovers in that half-world of the narcissist (oh, there's that tie-in), where the lies are believed until he gets caught, but then-- and this is the move that only a few can pull off-- he acknowledges that the "facts" are lies, but not the essence, the spirit. If aliens actually did come and attack us, he knows he would actually be able to fly a spaceship. Not only did he not attain his life's goals; he was going backwards.All the real things which had defined him were disappearing; all his attempts at making real the things he imagined could define him were being stymied.Moreover, no living man has ever been recognized as resembling the man of the portrait by the people who have seen this man in their dreams.The aim of this website is: - to help those who have seen this man in their dreams and to foster communication among them; - to understand who this man is and why he appears in an apparently pattern-less array of situations in the dreams of such diverse human subjects.