I was really in love with her and found her very attractive. At various times before that I had experienced some ED from time to time, but this was a complete shut down. I didn’t put it together at that moment, but it was because when I was away from her for 4 months, I was using porn daily – sometimes two times per day. It took almost two months to get back to somewhat normal sex with her, and my confidence suffered a noticeable shock.
And while that makes for a fine two minutes of chit-chat, more substantial convesation is obviously necessary to get to know someone.I have overcome many difficult obstacles in my life – overcoming crippling shyness by joining toastmasters and entering speech contests; losing over 50 pounds by changing my diet and exercising — but this was one of the hardest things I have ever done.I failed many times before I succeeded in permanently quitting pornography. Think of conversation as a tennis match in which the players lob the ball back and forth. They ask personal or sensitive questions that put the other person on the defensive. If feeling inhibited is a problem for some people, others go to the opposite extreme: they use a date as an opportunity to purge and vent. The best communication occurs with an even and equal exchange between two people. Getting to know someone new is like peeling an onion one thin layer at the time. But some people, overeager to get into deep and meaningful conversation, go too far too fast.