I found my answer from others who have lived with Narcs longer than even I have, children of narcissistic parents (my heart goes out to you all! And even as I have the strength, empathy, and forgiveness innate to my personality that make me a perfect target, these traits are actually a double edged sword.Once the Narc no longer can control my emotions, I can use them to cut him down.He (or she) can make their intended target feel important and highly valued, lavishing constant affection in order to make them feel special.He may do thoughtful little gestures, bring gifts, pay compliments and devote himself to the other’s pleasure in bed.Then, I had to take kid one to school and came home again, a little mellowed out.The Narc apologized (hah) and I got to doing some research. Turns out, I really am the perfect narcissistic supply.They often have a sense of entitlement and are grandiose in who they think they are. Narcissists can be male or female, but for present purposes I’ll make this narcissist male and call him “Joe.” He’s in his 50s and you meet him at a social gathering.
People often think that narcissistic individuals love only themselves, like Narcissus in the Greek myth who fell in love with his own reflection, but the polar opposite is true.
In the modern world the “Narcissistic Personality Disorder” represents the extreme end of the continuum of narcissism…
Narcissists are often very accomplished, but their inability to empathize with others and to tolerate criticism or setbacks is their downfall.
Narcissists see love as a relationship where they are provided with a significant, highly valued source of narcissistic supply.
Conquering a highly valued romantic partner is one of the best ways to attain this.