Yet these must be among the most difficult years for any parent. "I think too much is made about self-esteem," says Elkind. But people should feel bad if they have hurt someone or done something wrong. If they have a good role model from early on, they will be less likely to make bad decisions in their rebellious teen years.To help with parenting tips, Web MD turned to three national experts: David Elkind, Ph D, author of All Grown Up and No Place to Go and a professor of child development at Tufts University School of Medicine in Boston. "You're not flat-out rejecting them, you're at least making an overture. Another good line: "You may not feel like talking about what happened right now. But if you feel like talking about it later, you come to me," Elkind suggests. I came home from work early last week to find my teenage daughter in a state of almost total undress with a guy.I nearly lost my life and screamed at him to get out of the house. Since then, I have laid down rules, which she sees as completely unacceptable.Amy Bobrow, Ph D, a clinical psychologist and professor in the Child Study Center at New York University School of Medicine in Manhattan. Giving teens a chance to establish their own identity, giving them more independence, is essential to helping them establish their own place in the world. "Doing themselves harm or doing something that could be permanent (like a tattoo), those things matter," says Kaslow. When kids see them, see how their friends act with their parents, they can get a better sense of those friends," Elkind tells Web MD. Nadine Kaslow, Ph D, professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Emory University. "But if it means he's going out with a bad crowd, that's another thing," says Elkind. "Purple hair, a messy room -- those don't matter." Don't nitpick. "It's the old adage, you catch more bears with honey than vinegar. Share a few tidbits about your own day; ask about theirs.
I can understand your dramatic reaction to the sight, but wonder amid all the rules if there was any attempt to have a conversation with your daughter.The single parent dilemma is felt the hardest by the children, and as a product of such a household I am lucky enough to have this insight in my dating life.Many guys just don’t know how to deal with a child that isn’t theirs and it becomes immediately evident to the child, even when the mom is disillusioned into thinking that the guy is perfect.You may need to run some sort of background check or something to know what kind of temperament the guy has.A suave, zen-like guy who can hold in his inner lion is great but if you have a temper tantrum throwing lunatic around your baby, you need to drop him like a bad habit.